How to get rid of fear

Fear is OK when it protects you from real danger.

It’s not OK when it prevents you from asking somebody out on a date. It’s not OK when it robs you of the chance to win by not letting you even try.

It’s not OK when you lose many opportunities in life because of it.

Bad news is that you can’t ever get rid of fear. It’s a feeling built into our system. Everyone experiences it in some form or the other from time to time.

Good news is you don’t have to get rid of it. You can let it stay and do its duty, which is to warn you of potential dangers.

Great news is you get to decide whether to listen to your fears or not. You get to decide what action to take.

And the best action to take is to feel the fear (you can’t avoid it) and then go ahead and do the very thing you fear!

Yes, feel the fear and do it anyway.

Think about what you have to achieve in life. Think about who you are going to be in the future. Think about all the goals you are set to accomplish. Think about the grand vision you have about your life.

You can’t afford to let petty fears get in your way.

You simply can’t let them scare you.

“Do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain.”
Emerson

“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.”
John F Kennedy

“When you move beyond your fear, you feel free.”
Spencer Johnson

Fast phobia relief technique

Here is a powerful technique for getting rid of fears and phobias.
It’s called the fast phobia relief technique.

It works well with most kinds of fears, from the fear of cockroaches and dogs to the fear of heights, elevators, water and the dark. You can even use it to relieve yourself of deeply unpleasant memories and powerful phobias.

But first, try it with a moderately fearful situation, just to be familiar with the process.

Imagine you are seated in the middle of a movie theater and up on the screen you see a black-and-white snapshot of yourself. This snapshot, or picture, is from a time just before you had that fear experience for the first time. (Or if you can’t remember your first experience of the fear, then let this picture be of the time just before you had the most fearful response anytime in the past.)

Once again, there you are in the movie theater watching a black-and-white still picture of yourself. Now float out of your body and go up into the projection booth. From here, you look out and see yourself sitting in the middle of the theater watching a snapshot of yourself on the screen.

Now you turn that snapshot on the screen into a black-and-white movie of yourself. From this projection booth, you can see yourself sitting in the theater watching the movie which is about you having that fearful experience. Continue the movie until that fearful event is over and you are safe again. Stop the movie here and freeze the last scene (in which you are safe).

Now leave the projection booth and enter into that scene on the screen, and run the movie backwards from that point, with you in it. Run it very, very fast so you experience the whole event quickly in the reverse. Yes, everything happens backwards – people walk backwards too. In less than two seconds, the movie is over and you have reached a time before the beginning of the event. Do this step (running the movie backwards very quickly, in full color and with you in it) several more times. When you’re finished, take a deep breath (physically this time, not in imagination), shake your arms, get up, stretch and move around.

Now it’s time to check. Think of that fearful event from the past and notice how you respond to it now. If you still have some fear, repeat the whole process, more carefully and thoroughly this time.

This is a widely practiced NLP (neurolinguistic programming) technique. It’s quick, easy and highly effective. Try it on all kinds of fears and memories from the past that don’t serve well now.

Kinesthetic guy

December 3rd, 2011 at 1:56 am
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I just read this blog, and after reading it I felt a little different than before. I don’t know if it will work out easily in reality but still it gave me some positive spark, and I will definitely try it out whenever I have fear in me. You’re quite inspirational person Mr. Sharma. After having the orientation class in WHSHM I felt quite renewed. Anyways thank you for bringing some change in me because I believe that change is good. Well I’ll definitely be looking forward for your blogs now because life’s all about learning and putting it into practice. So, thank you once again……